When long term problems exist in any relationship, they can usually be traced to mental heath issues, physical health issues or family of origin issues. Relationships Matter is a 13-session conference that grew out of the Marriage Matters conference with the intent to help each individual mature spiritually, mentally and emotionally.
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Since Relationships Matter grew out of the Marriage Matters conference, its content is similar but has been reformatted to target relationships in general. The conference format and session summaries are provided below.
Sunday
AM Bible Classes
Men of God — Jerry
Women of God — Lynn
AM Worship
The Servant Heart — Jerry
3:00 p.m. Recovery from Death and Divorce
4:00 p.m. Parenting 101
5:00 p.m. Break (light supper)
6:00 p.m. God’s Ideal Marriage — Jerry
7:00 p.m. Affair-Proofing Your Marriage
Monday
7:00 p.m. Please Listen To Me
8:00 p.m. Anger, Abuse, and Forgiveness
Tuesday
7:00 p.m. Unrealistic Expectations (This Is Not Quite What I Expected)
8:00 p.m. Addictions and Pornography
Wednesday
7:00 p.m. Taking Personal Inventory
8:00 p.m. Loving Your Mate Through The Seasons Of Life
Session Summaries
Men of God (Jerry only)
Without the leadership of Godly men, the family, the church, the community, and the nation are at risk. This powerful presentation moves theory into practice in calling all men, regardless of their stations in life, to be Men of God.
Women of God (Lynn only)
All women, regardless of their life situations, have the challenge to be women of God. What defines this woman, and how does she, in a very practical way, stay true to this calling as she faces the daily challenges that come her way? This poignant presentation addresses both issues.
The Servant Heart (Jerry only)
The model for all Christians is Jesus, who came to the world in the form of a servant. The ultimate goal for each individual is Christlikeness. Many problems that plague relationships can be traced back to the absence of a servant heart. Any time individuals are in a relationship more for what they can get instead of what they can give, the relationship is headed for troublean give, the relationship is headed for trouble.
Recovery from Death or Divorce of a Spouse (Jerry and Lynn)
The common denominator in both death and divorce is loss. The major issues that often prevent recovery are failure to forgive and inability or unwillingness to establish a new dream for one’s life. Designed for those who have endured loss and for those who desire to better understand the grieving and rebuilding process, this very powerful and authentic presentation draws not only from Jerry and Lynn’s expertise but from their personal experiences.
Parenting 101 (Jerry and Lynn)
God is the “author” of marriage. While there are no perfect marriages, lasting marriages are unified, God-centered, and emotionally intimate. This realistic and entertaining presentation underscores the necessity of common goals and values if a marriage is to thrive.
God’s Ideal Marriage (Jerry only)
God is the “author” of marriage. While there are no perfect marriages, lasting marriages are unified, God-centered, and emotionally intimate. This realistic and entertaining presentation underscores the necessity of common goals and values if a marriage is to thrive.
Affair Proofing Your Marriage (Jerry and Lynn)
No marriage is immune to an affair. “It can’t happen to me” is Satan’s lie. Anyone can be emotionally or physically unfaithful if the foundation for fidelity is not firm and God-centered. Inherent in this forthright and informative presentation is a six-step model describing how good people become entrapped in webs of lies and deceitfulness. While controlling the choices of a spouse is impossible, one can determine the moral direction of their own life by establishing and maintaining boundaries.
“Please Listen to Me!” (Jerry and Lynn)
Surely “clean house” means “clean house.” Perhaps—perhaps not! No one sees the world exactly like another, and often the same words have different meanings. Central to healthy communication is an acknowledgement of each individual’s distinct perceptions and ego defenses. This dynamic and humorous session explains that different does not have to mean “wrong”—it usually just means different!
“Anger, Abuse, and Forgiveness” (Jerry and Lynn)
Relationships frequently cause differences and often hurtful words and actions result. The inability to deal constructively with anger is a major barrier in communication. Determining the source of anger is essential in learning to process it. Learning to “listen” to what lies beneath the words is also crucial if good conflict resolution is to be developed. Full of energy and common sense, this presentation is guaranteed to help you see yourself and those around you more realistically and to forgive those who may have wronged you.
Unrealistic Expectations: This is not what I expected! (Jerry and Lynn)
People often enter a marriage with very distinct ideas about what the marriage will be and what roles each spouse will play in that marriage. Soon after the honeymoon this idealism begins to give way to the realities of married life. To remain emotionally married, couples must learn to evaluate and sometimes modify these expectations. This humorous, yet thought-provoking presentation brings to light some of these unrealistic expectations and provides guidance for modifying them.
Addictions and Pornography (Jerry and Lynn)
This thought-provoking and professionally presented session defines and addresses the origins of all addictive behavior and provides the scientific data explaining sexual addiction. Having grown to epidemic proportions via the internet, pornography is often considered the “secret sin.” Unless addressed, its addictive powers have a devastating impact on individuals and relationships. The session concludes with the practical information and resources necessary to break out of its bondage.
Taking Personal Inventory (Jerry and Lynn)
Nothing functions well without maintenance, and relationships are no exception. Periodic inventory needs to be taken of oneself if our interactions with others are to remain healthy. Too often emotional ties die because of neglect. At other times poor self-esteem, perfectionism, criticism, depression, and other mental and physical health issues can undermine relationships. Acknowledging the origin of these issues and seeking realistic resolutions to them are important if emotional bonds are to survive. When relationships are seen as an opportunity for individual growth they not only survive, they thrive!
Loving Your Mate through the Seasons of Life ( Jerry and Lynn)
Indicative of the servant heart that permeates a Christian marriage is the desire to know the needs of a spouse, the couple, and the willingness to adjust to try and meet those needs. What are the needs in a marriage and how can they be met in a practical way? Guaranteed to make you laugh while you learn, this energetic session provides the answers!